My BF/GF is asking me for a sexy pic or nude selfie...

Pressure to send sexy or nude pictures and texts can happen in relationships. If your BF/GF is pressuring you to send these types of pictures it is not okay.

You have a right to say no to these types of requests but this can also be hard if you love the person or feel like they will end the relationship if you don’t send the picture.

They may also say things like “if you loved me you would” or “it’s no big deal, everyone else is doing it.”

It can be easy for someone to say that it’s not a big deal to send these pictures but it’s important to think about what it might mean for you. Once a photo is sent you lose control of it and a permanent record of that photo exists, even if it is deleted.

There are also laws around sexting which can mean consequences both for you and the person asking you for the picture. It is important that you know about these laws before you send any pictures and it might also be worth telling the person who is asking you for the picture about them too.  You can see them here http://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/find-legal-answers/sex-and-law/sexting-and-child-pornography

If you don’t want to send a sexy picture they should respect your decision.

If your BF/GF really cares about you they will listen when you tell them you don’t want to and won’t pressure you. If they keep asking you it might be worth thinking about your relationship. Sometimes it might help to talk to your parents or another adult you can trust. You can also talk to a counsellor at Barwon CASA, click here for info on how to contact us.

What if I already sent a picture?

Maybe you were feeling pressured or thought it would be fun at the time. Maybe you didn’t realise what might happen with the picture. If you’ve already sent a picture and are worried about what might happen maybe you could try some of the following things:

More on sexy pics

http://lovegoodbadugly.com/sexting/
http://lovegoodbadugly.com/sending-or-receiving-sexts/
 Download a free app: http://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/find-legal-answers/sex-and-law/resources/below-belt-sex-selfies-and-cyberbullying